DO WOMEN REALLY NEED TWICE AS MUCH SEX AS MEN?

If you are a technical person, you should dig a little deeper into the scientific aspect to find the actual reason, and if you are a practical person like me, you will understand things a little differently. You will not see them as men or women but as human beings who have been brought up differently and have a different mindset towards sexual intercourse. Some seem to think there is no difference between men and women when it comes to their sexual interests or desire. Just like a dog's breed doesn't play much of a role in determining its nature, same as with a woman. 

No no, I am not comparing a woman with a dog. 

You cannot say that all women necessarily NEED twice as much sex as men.

From an evolutionary point of view, that would be enthralling. Sex has very different implications and connotations for men and women. Women get pregnant, and men don't.

Men and women aren't the same. The old stereotype was that men were very interested in sex and women were interested in something else and were, perhaps, willing to tolerate sex to pursue other goals. Like children and families and, say, cooking and buying clothes, to flesh out the stereotype!
This thought that women do not naturally crave sex was put inside their brains by society just like how gender roles are instilled inside every individual's mind. But over the years this so-called" notion" has changed to a greater extent. 

 PROBLEMS FACED BY WOMEN

Even in brothels, some women are selling themselves for the satisfaction of a man and earning a living out of it. The majority of them have no other choice or option. 
Prostitution is quite common now and not a taboo anymore. But you do not see the way around. If men are selling their bodies for a woman's satisfaction, even then, a woman will be shamed for it. This stereotypical thinking is deeply ingrained in the people of our society. 
Women are shamed for so many things like talking loudly, wearing revealing clothes, being angry, also being too educated, etc., because of all these things, women are now so scared of being themselves. They do not want to be transparent about their needs at all. A house is termed the safest place in the universe, but it is not safe even there for a woman.

These old societal stereotypes are nonsense. Women cannot live like this anymore. This needs to stop now, and it is coming to an end as women of our generation are more educated and aware of their rights.

 Women are interested in sex for themselves, and the new idea that men and women are the same is based on the rejection of the old idea/stereotype.

THINGS TO KEEP IN MIND

Sex has the power to connect, but the desire for sex can also destroy relationships when it dominates. Any dominating emotion can ruin a relationship. Relationships are the perfect blend of different kinds of emotions.

Having good sex, as in you enjoy it emotionally and have an orgasm too, is more costly for women than men. It takes more emotional energy, and it takes more physical. It also takes more time and effort.

There is another issue. Men feel a need for release. Not having sex means they still feel that need, and it could be frustrating sometimes. It's like being hungry when all you want to do is fall into bed. So, despite your exhaustion, you take the time to get something to eat.

And yes, I know women who say they also feel the need for release. But only around 40 percent of women prefer to masturbate, which is a low figure because not all females are aware of this method of escape. Some women feel guilty about doing it. It is hard to unlearn things that you have been taught since childhood. However, they don't express what men think, and most of them have never been pushed to have sex when they are exhausted.

Women are socialized to believe that they are meant to have more petite sex. Having to want more sex does not make them good girls. The definition of a good girl is quite famous and familiar in a country like ours. Therefore, they are not likely to admit that they think more about sex than men, even if they do. Whereas Men are given societal acceptance to think about sex all day long.

Women in general, are more complex than men sexually and have more obstacles to enjoying sex. (Women have a more challenging time having sex when other things (household chores) are on their minds such as a messy house, kid needs, or relationship issues, women have more steps to their orgasm than men do, and women need more out of sex than direct genital stimulation, unlike most men.)

Another reason women often don't enjoy sex is that they have been taught to fear sex. Physical, social, emotional, and moral consequences are all attached to female sexuality. It is not as casual as it is for men.

LACK OF UNDERSTANDING CAN CREATE PROBLEMS 

There are so many relationships where women crave more sex than their better half.

Sexual pleasure is easier to achieve for men; therefore, when women do not have fun easily, they may be considered frigid or may develop negative feelings towards sex. It's not that sex doesn't feel suitable for women; women's sexual pleasure is not well understood and is not even the goal often for sex. There are fewer people out there who give preference to female sexuality and their needs.

These are social consequences, not biological consequences. Women are socialized out of having sex by first learning that they shouldn't want it and then falsely learning that sex is not easy and incapable of enjoying it. 

When these obstacles are accounted for, sex is just as enjoyable for women as men. It is just that women are more of a DEMISEXUAL than men. They have a hard time having casual sex. Often simple can be meaningless to them as there is no connection between the two people. Women are termed as RIGHT brained, and Men are termed as LEFT brained. Women like to build an emotional relationship with a partner before having sex. This is called the trust-building process so that post-sex, they will not be judged for having enjoyed sex. They do not want to feel used.

Women are afraid of pain during sex. Fear can make them tenser, which leads to pain. Men may be rough or careless, which can also lead to pain.

Men are not socialized to attribute pain to sex but pleasure. Also, due to biological differences, tensing up would not lead to pain. And rougher sex would not lead to discomfort as quickly.

FEARS OF WOMEN

• Women are taught to fear rape. Rape is a tool that is used to terrorize women in war and other times. Rape puts a woman at a loss of control and takes from her "purity," and makes her feel like she's lost value. (Which in the past has even been a natural social consequence.) The great shame is attached to being raped by a man. Men can be raped- generally, male rape is associated with shame, while being raped by a woman is treated as a joke or a blessing. Men do not have an ever-present fear that they could be raped by being in the wrong place, wearing the bad thing, not paying attention to their surroundings, turning away from their drink momentarily, etc.

• Women fear being used and discarded. Men generally do not fear this. Women worry that men will lie to get sex. This does not prove that men want sex more. The social and emotional consequences of a one-night stand are different for men and women. And true, some women don't care about those consequences, but they still exist.

• Women have fears of being labeled a slut, whore, etc. (And the ostracism and bullying and other social consequences that come along with that.) Men do not have a fear of that.

• Women fear becoming pregnant and abandoned. Men do not have that fear.

• A well-educated woman is more likely to enjoy her sex drive than an uneducated one, and she is more likely to be open to trying new things in her sex life because she is not ashamed of unlocking the paradise of her body.

CONCLUSION

There can be so many misconceptions about male and female sex drive but, you need to be practical about it because it is not about gender. It has much more to do with it. It is more about a person's mindset and how open he or she is regarding their sex life and how much you know about yourself, and how much importance you give to the pleasures of your life.

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